Can you believe that 99% of fear has nothing to do with our present circumstances, but is based on past experience and future anticipation?In this video I discuss the difference between real and illusory fear, and how we can change our thinking about fear from a 3D to a 5D perspective.
Here is the audio transcript:
Today I am doing my second video in my series of becoming a quantum human which is about taking a particular trait or aspect of life and comparing what it is in 3D and looking at what it might be link in 5D. Today I am going to do FEAR.
First of all let’s look at fear in 3D. In terms of a process something “happens” – there’s an external event that stimulates a response that we call fear. After we have this external event, there is some type of feeling or sensation in our body as a first step. Form this point on we can see 2 different kinds of fear – I will call these “real” and “illusory” fears.
Let’s start with “real” fear. This is something that threatens our survival – It’s something that’s beyond our believed capabilities. This could be a collective belief such as ‘humans can’t fly’ or ‘humans can’t breathe underwater’, or it could be an individual belief such as ‘I can’t swim’. This can be a very individual things as to whether an external event actually threatens survival. When something threatens survival and goes beyond our current capabilities, then that feeling in our body bypasses all human awareness and it becomes a pure instinct, we have an instinct that takes over from the reptilian survival-based part of the brain that we had for our whole evolution. That instinct leads to a response, or taking an action, that is about us surviving. It’s a simple loop and it just happens.
I don’t know if you have ever been in a life-threatening situation – I’ve been in a situation where I felt my survival was threatened and you don’t even know what is happening. You become possessed with the complete focus of just trying to get through the situation, and you’re not even thinking, you’re not even really aware of what’s going on, you’re just acting out of pure survival. It’s a very primal state to be in what I am calling “real” fear.
Next let’s look at “illusory” fear. In “illusory” fear we are saying that in a moment our survival is not actually threatened. We tend not to be looking at the present moment but at the past or future. There’s some memory from the past that’s creating a fear – as an example, let’s say we had an incident where we thought we were drowning, and so now whenever we go near water it triggers the same response. we are not actually threatened in that moment, because we are not submerged in water – we are just near water, bit a past memory is what creates the feeling of fear.
It could also be an anticipation about something happening in the future. We have no idea of whether that thing is going to happen in the future, but still it’s the expectation and anticipation of what might happen that triggers a fear. Instead of having the feeling as an instinct, what we tend to have here is more of a “label”. We tend to label the feeling as we are starting to being awareness into it. We may be saying “I am feeling afraid”, “I am panicking”, “I feel anxious” – there’s a recognition that there’s something going on, but really our survival isn’t being threatened in that particular moment.
An interesting thing happens when we label things and we have time – when our survival is not actually threatened we have time – if we have the time to think about how we are feeling, then our survival is not threatened, because we don’t have instinct taking over. In a way that’s how we can tell if a fear is “illusory” or “real” – because we have time to contemplate this fear, or we don’t in which case we just act.
Once we have time to label this feeling, it’s really important to understand that feelings can be labelled by different people in different ways. Just because you feel a certain way does not mean that that feeling is fear.
Let’s take an example – take 2 people at the top of a bridge ready to bungee jump. They have the same feelings in their body – one of those people takes those feelings as fear: “Oh my God, I’m going to die” when I jump off this bridge. The other person has exactly the same sensations in their body but they label it as excitement. They feel excited about the adrenaline rush that is going to come. So it’s important to understand that there is a feeling and the label that we give it – whether it is ‘good’ or ‘bad’ – is purely an individual thing.
So we label this feeling and the next thing that tends to happen is we start to judge the feeling. Let’s look at an example like public speaking – obviously public speaking is not generally a threat to one’s survival at the time – the fear tends to be an anticipation of the future, of what people will think, or it could be from a bad experience from the past that triggers the fear. Then we say “I am afraid of public speaking” and then we judge it. “This is bad. I shouldn’t feel this way. I should be able to get up in front of this crowd and speak. There’s something wrong with me. Why can’t I just do it.”
There is all this secondary judgement about how you are feeling. We have enough time on our hands not only to label the feeling, but then to judge it.
Then we get caught in a loop. It becomes a program where we just keep running the same thing over and over again. We continue to feed the feeling by labeling it as fear and judging it and then it can escalate. We can have panic attacks or anxiety. And finally we usually have an action that supports the fear. With fear of public speaking that means we leave, we don’t get up and speak, we say ‘no’. Or with the fear of bungee jumping we don’t jump. Whatever it is, it follows this program, it loops in on itself and we take an action to support the fact that we think our survival is threatened but it really isn’t.
So just to summarise comparing “real” versus “illusory” fear – “real” fear is something that threatens to exceed our current believed capabilities and it’s in the present moment. whereas an “illusory” fear is based on memories from the past or expectations or anticipations about the future. In “illusory” fear we have time to label and judge and think about what is going on, and I’m going to make a call here that probably “real” fear is probably only 1% of the things that we experience that we call fear, whereas “illusory” fear is 99% or even more of the things that we think we are afraid of.
That is the 2 different types of fear in 3D, let’s have a look at what that might be in 5D.
In 5D it’s similar in that we still have an external event that brings up some type of feeling. And I think we are still going to have those “real” fears. We are still going to have a believed set of capabilities that a human being can do, so if those believed capabilities are exceeded in some way, then I am going to suggest we are going to have a survival type response similar to 3D. So in 5D the main difference is what happens with “illusory” fear.
In the “Illusory” fear process, the first thing is when we feel something, in 5D we are going to have awareness that we are feeling something. In 3D we don’t have a good level of awareness – It bypasses that awareness straight into labeling. So instead of giving the feeling a label we are going to have an awareness, that we are feeling something. In 5D I think we have a very different attitude towards feeling – feelings are our 100% accurate guidance system for our lives. So if we feel something, it means there is something important to us that this feeling has stemmed from. If we have a strong feeling it;s a message that something in that moment is important to us.
So instead of there being this label that “I feel afraid”, we are aware there is a feeling and that means something important is going on. Back in 3D we are saying feelings are ‘good’ or ‘bad’, in 5D we are saying I have a feeling and that is telling me something important. That is how we can see that fear and excitement are actually telling us the same thing. They are actually saying that there is something that you want to do – and you don’t have to say that it is ‘good’ or ‘bad’, or ‘fear’ or ‘excitement’ or ‘panic’ or ‘joy’ – it just comes about working out about what in that moment is important to you.
Let’s use the example of public speaking – let’s say you’ve been asked to give a talk at work. Firstly this is not “real” fear because it is not threatening your survival. But you have a feeling come up, and in 3D you would say this is terrible and act from that place. Whereas in 5D you have this awareness saying something like “I’m having this feeling in my body of adrenaline, and jumpiness.” You could say this is fear but in 5D we are asking what is important here to us. When you look at that you might say something like “My job is important to me, I want to contribute, I want to be respected by my colleagues. That means I want to be able to talk in front of my colleagues.”
What is therefore triggering the feeling is that you want that so much, but you think it’s fear when you feel that adrenaline about getting up and speaking in front of them. When all that is telling you is that your job is important to you – not that you are afraid of public speaking. So you can flip it around like that and look at what it is telling you in that moment.
Once you decide what is actually important to you, and use the feelings as guidance rather than as a lopping feedback mechanism to drive your actions, then you can take a congruent action that supports what’s important – instead of the 3D program.
That’s where you can say “It’s important to me to stand up in front of my colleagues and give this talk so despite how I feel I’m going to do it” because you now understand what this feeling is all about. You end up taking a very different action that is congruent with the new level of awareness and you realise that fear is not actually fear in that case – it’s simply just a way to grow.
There are books “The Obstacle is the Way” or “Feel the Fear and do it Anyway” that discuss this – when we feel fear there is an obstacle, but that obstacle is there for us to grow, because that is the whole point of life – to grow, evolve and expand. We start to look at these feelings as a guidance system and messages to tell us what is the direction we need to grow towards to continue evolving as a human being.
Just to finish with I have a few key questions we can ask ourselves when we have an external event that triggers a feeling we label as fear.
The first question is “Am I truly in danger now? Is my survival actually threatened?” As we said before 99% of the time it isn’t. And if you have the time to ask yourself that question that really suggests that your survival isn’t threatened. If it was you certainly wouldn’t be thinking that way. You would be acting on instinct.
The second question is “Why am I feeling this feeling? What is important to me here?” and really dig deep to work out why you are having that response. And that might be after you’ve had the external event. It might be removing yourself from the situation and reflecting on it later. It doesn’t necessarily have to be in the moment.
The third question I have is “What would be a congruent action to support what I have discovered is important, moving forward? This is where we get to reflect on past situations perhaps where we have acted on something despite this feeling we have labeled as fear and looking at how things turned out. Everything always turns out! We wouldn’t be standing here if it didn’t. We get to do a bit of reality checking – “is this action that I am going to take really as bad as I’m thinking it might be? Am I stuck in this loop of judgment that’s keeping me in a program? Is this an opportunity to grow and evolve in a new direction and achieve some new skill, overcome some obstacle, that will lead a to a sense of satisfaction?”
I hope this has given you a new way to think about fear. Fear is not necessarily a real thing. Fear is just something that we have programmed based on labels and judgements we have given to how we feel. This is an opportunity to completely reframe how we look at fear, and how we look at what is actually one of our greatest impetuses in growth for creating the new 5D human on the new 5D Earth.